This can be with partner, family, friends colleague etc.
I ask for or create space to process the situation
I grab a pen and paper and write at the top of the page...
WHAT ROLE DID I PLAY IN THIS DISAGREEMENT?
I then write my answer/s openly and honestly.
I openly communicate with the other person the role I believe that I played in the disagreement.
This generally opens up a conversation to work through things and better understand each other's situation.
I feel disagreements are a guarantee in life, however how we deal with them is a choice in life!
It is said that the body sends the brain up to 400 billion bits of information per second, but we are only aware of 2,000 of those bits of information.
So, while people may be sending us the information, we may not be aware of the information and it is this reason why disagreements are guaranteed.
By giving ourselves space to process and being honest with ourselves + others, it enables the opportunity to access those bits of information which we may not have become aware of earlier.
Michael J Clarke